In what ways are you keeping yourself stuck in this cycle of roadblocks?
This might be very hard to come to terms with but the lack of boundaries is tied to how much self-worth I have. I have the thought that I don't deserve to have a day off. Or that I don't deserve to take a break. The needs of the company are more important than my own needs. The image of having my life put together for society's sake is more important than being vulnerable and exposing my insecurities. And I don't mean to sound self-centered or narcissistic. Yes it's okay to put the needs of other people in front of your own. But when you start doing it day in and day out every single time you have a choice, it becomes a problem and affects how you live your life. All of this is compounded by society's positive reinforcement. We live in a culture where we are rewarded for doing more and being more with either money or recognition. But that money and recognition comes at a cost. It is what keeps a lot of us from breaking the cycle. Let's say I go through another life event. My work offers me the day off but because of my lack of boundaries, I try to fit someone else's perception of being a good employee. Instead of taking the day off that I probably need to process the life event and because I don't think I'm worthy of taking a break, I choose to work. In the following weeks, I am praised for "my strength" and the ability to continue to get things done. Maybe I even get overtime pay in the process. Even though I might be struggling mentally and emotionally I continue on the cycle.
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