Every time you face the roadblocks in life, what do you tell yourself? Yesterday, I talked about the two roadblocks that I feel trip me up the most in life. Today we dive deeper into how I deal with the roadblocks. I kind of have already addressed this issue in therapy before. I have had the chance to work towards changing my self-talk to a more realistic and positive narrative, but I will break it down from the beginning to give you a better picture. Roadblock one: my mental, emotional, and physical health suffers when a large life event happens. Narrative that used to happen: Be strong. Keep pushing forward. No breaks. If you can't handle the change, people will think you're weak and unreliable. Don't show emotion. Women are already portrayed as being too emotional, don't prove them right. Narrative that I am working towards: It is okay to ask for help. I do not have to go through this alone. Taking a break is warranted given the circumstances. Taking a break will allow me to recharge and process things in a healthier way. Other people's perceptions of you are not your responsibility. Being vulnerable makes you authentic and relatable. Roadblock two: striving for perfectionism.
Narrative that used to happen (and still often does): I don't trust _________ to get _________ done. "They" don't do "it" the way I like "it" done. I don't want other people to think that I let "that" happen. I'll just do "it" myself. I can do "it" quicker than showing someone else how to do "it." Narrative that I am working towards: There is no one right way to achieve the same result. ________ has shown themselves capable in the past. Delegating is apart of leadership. It is okay to say no sometimes. Other people need to learn from their failures too. Other people's perception is not something you can control.
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